I’ve come to realize that my judgements stem from my own insecurities

If I judge someone (including myself) to the highest degree, then no one else can first. If I make a hilarious, self-detrimental comment, then people can only laugh with me, not at me. And a lot of the time, they do. I’ve made my friends, my coworkers, random people around me at Starbucks, laugh with the judgmental things I’ve said.

https://allwhoponder.com/2020/05/28/who-do-i-think-i-am

It only serves as a reminder of the kind of people I never want to get involved with again

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Now I’m dedicating time to becoming the person I want to be. The person who is utterly unaffected by jealousy or envy, the type of person who says “I’ve had enough and I’m out, I deserve way better.” Hopefully, a wholesome and equal love will enter my life, if I do what’s right for me.

https://faithsthinkingdiary.wordpress.com/2020/05/13/%e2%9c%a7-entry-46-thats-enough-%e2%9c%a7

As we set out on another week in quarantine, know that I’m praying for you, that I love you, and that I am grateful for your presence in my life — You matter to me! 🙂

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Thirty million people. Each, not just a “number,” but a person. With a story: Moms. Dads. Siblings. Spouses. Sons and daughters. Friends. Colleagues. That staggering statistic hits differently when you think about the person behind the number: struggling to pay bills, put food on the table, blowing through savings, or finding themselves having to go to food banks for the first time, ever.

https://beautybeyondbones.com/2020/05/04/the-question-we-dont-want-to-answer

You’ve been so fucked up by someone in your life that the minute someone comes along and tries to treat you the way you deserve because you’re a fucking decent human being, you back up and out those walls up like you’re trying to stop that Trojan horse from storm charging the city of your soul

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Starting again is a difficult time of your life. It’s hard to break out of cycles that you’ve always known. It’s hard to break habits of a lifetime and it’s hard to loose people you’ve believed would be in your life forever but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Sometimes starting again, on your own or with someone new can be the most refreshing and exciting times. Learning the little things that matter to someone and even new things that you didn’t think you knew about yourself can be wonderful.

https://hashtag-mumlife.com/2020/03/16/dont-fuck-with-feelings

“The hardest thing in life isn’t getting what you want; It’s knowing what you want.”

Dear KB,

You said my last post made you go ‘Ooof.’

I have to say, you questioning whether we use dating apps as a way of coping with our feelings, made me go, ‘Oooof.’ Quickly followed by a ‘Mother fucking Ooof!’

Because, I know you’re right.

What I have become painfully aware of, however, is I try to use the apps as a way to cope with the alone-ness of being single, but it doesn’t actually work. And in fact, it actually turns a not that lonely me into a lonelier me.

So I came across this Tim Ferriss post the other day, where he suggests that instead of making New Year’s resolutions, you conduct a past year in review—a chance to reflect on what you did in 2019 that was positive and led to positive feelings, versus what you did that was negative or led to negative emotions.

And…

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Nobody actually f*cking cares

Dear Josephine..

I’ve never been one for hugely inflammatory or click-baity titles. I generally opt for Simpsons references and alliteration to attract readers, as it makes me feel smart and important. I can appreciate how the title “Nobody actually fucking cares” would seem to break this trend, as it alludes to Dan having regressed to the emotional state equivalent of putting Sum 41 lyrics in his MSN status; let me assure you though, this is an uplifting piece.

Of course people care. They care about their jobs; they care about their families; they apparently care about their eyebrows a lot these days for some reason. There are plenty of things in life worth caring about, and far be it from me to judge what those things may be for any given person.

What they probably do not care about, is you.

Oh sure, your Mum cares about you. Your siblings probably do…

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Am I evil?

Struggling with Schizoaffective Disorder

Is a question that I ask myself quite a bit. I don’t do evil things, at least I think so. Yet I still can’t squash the conflict in my head as to whether or I not I am. I’ve always tried to be an extremely introspective person, ever since I discovered the meaning of the word. Whether I am successful in that conquest is not something I believe I’m qualified to answer. The question of my designation more than likely resides in the fact that I can’t mind my own business, and the fact I can’t leave a question unanswered.

Most humans see themselves as the hero in their own story. It’s extremely difficult for a person to accept that something was a result of their own actions, showcased specifically in car accidents. Sure, it’s an insignificant situation. Sometimes though, car crashes can be fatal. Especially drunk driving. Most car…

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Tips for disagreeable assholes who have or want friends

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Ben Foth - Sexual Energy Coach

Disagreeableness isn’t a curse or a mark of a demon. In fact, it’s a valuable trait for making friends and getting ahead in your social life.

I know I should write a better introduction, but fuck that. We’re on my turf here. I don’t want to put effort into this introduction, and you can’t make me.

Acknowledge the value of diplomacy and tact

Honesty doesn’t have to be brutal, but it has to hurt sometimes. Life is pain (but not always).

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Hitting people with brutal honesty then claiming “I’m not an asshole, I’m just honest” is a dick move if you get validation from the brutality as much as from the honesty.

Unless you’re on the autism spectrum, you have the natural ability to read social cues that inform you on how to behave. Use it. There’s no point in unnecessarily crossing boundaries or pissing people off to fuel self-righteousness.

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