F-You, 12 Steps

mental health , 12 steps , recovery , drug addiction , powerlessness , surrender

Rock's Fabulous Journey

I both love and hate the 12 Steps.

After quitting the fellowship yesterday (“for good, this time!”), I went to another meeting tonight (again). And it was great, I loved it.

But there’s so much of the dogma and culture which I fucking hate. There are certain things I simply will not subscribe to, certain things I cannot bring myself to say.

I’m not going to mould myself into a starry-eyed 12 Step believer. I can’t fool myself into doing that.

But here’s what I love:

12 Steps is a community of (fucking crazy) people with a common problem, coming together to support and help each other.

And THAT is fucking golden. I just need to find ways of dealing with the rest of the 12 Steps annoying bollocks.

[Note: forgive my swearing, I’ve been fasting today and recently had a strong coffee. It’s having approximately triple…

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10 ways to make money and f?@k with capitalism at the same time

Fahckmylife's Blog

Apparently, the recession is over and we’re all supposed to be temporarily ok?  Well at least for the moment, right?  And it’s not like rent is super expensive either so we should be OK!  Capitalism totally works – sure work is there for everyone who needs it.

(In case you didn’t notice that was sarcasm – and hopefully explaining it didn’t take away from the joke).

There are little things you can do to help your survival, while in some cases, messing around on a tiny scale with capitalism.

cropped-58948_424946218089_492449_n.jpgOnline surveys

Market research is the bastion of capitalism and I say this after working in market research for about eight years.  The biggest demographics that market researchers want to speak to are males aged 18-34 and, to a lesser extent, males aged 35-49, as they are firstly the most difficult to get to complete research and also the groups with…

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keeping up with the seasons

Words, Words, Words.

Over the last few months I have learned quite a bit more about the people around me. I’ve always considered myself an empathetic person. And I’ve been pretty outspoken that I think empathy is something everyone should possess. The sad truth is, so many people do not have the ability to put themselves into someone else’s headspace.

This year I finally feel like I’m surrounded by the right people. And in every conversation I have, I try to take the inspiring and truthful tid bits and apply what might help parts of my life.

Something someone said that has stuck in my head is that we need to allow people to go through their own seasons. We can only control ourselves. We cannot control what other people think or do.

All we can do is what we think is right, and what we know feels right for ourselves. Now, the…

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“Smile! You Never Know Who’s Watching…” and Other B.S.

Simply Melanie Rose

Recently, somebody told me, “Smile, you never know who’s watching.” Remind me – am I supposed to care who’s watching? Is it my job as a female to go around looking like a lunatic so other people won’t think negative things about me? Is this the part where I give two fucks? Can a person ever really give enough fucks to make ‘other people’ happy? I guess I didn’t respond quickly enough, so they said, “A pretty girl like you should smile more.” Pretty girls are required to respond and tend to the egos of surrounding somebodies. These are the rules of being female. We must acknowledge all who need to feel acknowledged. We must do penance for the wounds of pretty-girls-past.

I was so inspired and uplifted by this reminder of my true worth. I immediately started walking with a spring in my step and a desire to break into…

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The Oblivious Little Adventurer

Chuyện của tui, Nhạc nhẽo

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When I was in pre-school, I asked for books on traffic laws and animals biology. I just wanted answers. I wanted to know more.

I also wandered around the neighbors in elementary school. Turned out the area I walked around was kinda sketchy. But I didn’t think much. I just wanted to see what’s out there, and then make my way to my friends where there would probably be banana pancakes.

Right around 2010, Paranormal Activity 2 came out. I remember being at my friend’s house, and we would watch it on her TV screen with maybe 10 or so others. I remember how noisy we were, and how it was comfortable surrounded by so many that even if a spirit came to drag one of us, the dozen of middle schoolers there would be able to fight back. I also remember I didn’t look at the screen that often…

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Would you like a muffin with that?

barista, boomers, coffee, customer service, family, generation, millenials, personal, Student

Caramelmacheeto

Customer service in any job is tiring. It is emotional draining and physically exhausting. I come home everyday to sore feet, a story to tell and back ache that even a massage can’t fix.

When I first started my job in a coffee shop I wasn’t used to being on my feet and one of the first pieces of advice I got from a colleague was “Get memory foam shoes and thick socks”. I thought she was joking but my God for the first few months my feet killed to the point every night I had to soak them in hot water and sleep with a hot water bottle.

As the years passed by my feet got used to the 8-10 hours on my feet shifts and the pain I received moved to more of an emotional pain of dealing with rude, stupid and obnoxious customers.

You hear the boomer…

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