"The hardest thing in life isn't getting what you want; It's knowing what you want."

Dear KB,

You said my last post made you go ‘Ooof.’

I have to say, you questioning whether we use dating apps as a way of coping with our feelings, made me go, ‘Oooof.’ Quickly followed by a ‘Mother fucking Ooof!’

Because, I know you’re right.

What I have become painfully aware of, however, is I try to use the apps as a way to cope with the alone-ness of being single, but it doesn’t actually work. And in fact, it actually turns a not that lonely me into a lonelier me.

So I came across this Tim Ferriss post the other day, where he suggests that instead of making New Year’s resolutions, you conduct a past year in review—a chance to reflect on what you did in 2019 that was positive and led to positive feelings, versus what you did that was negative or led to negative emotions.

And…

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The Difference In The Way Life Turns Out

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Defining Yellow

How are we to know what our future is going to look like? I mean you can do all the “right” things and still never “make it”, and you see other people do the “right” things and they get everything they ever dreamed of, so whats the difference? 

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Rant: Blame the Teacher, not the Student

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What Does Phil Know?

I’ve been brainstorming writing this for a while. I’ve got a lot of friends in the generations above me, and have heard a lot more millennial/young person hate showing up more and more, especially when it comes to car enthusiasts. A lot of that is the nature of the social media machine, but at the same time, y’all gotta take a step back and think about your actions that helped cause this.

One particular item that grinds my gears is the car enthusiasts’ hatred of “kids that don’t know old car stuff”, especially the “millennial anti-theft device” aka the manual transmission. I know I’m a relatively rare exception, but both my wife and I know how to drive a manual transmission, and we’re both millennials.

I’ve seen too many memes and articles about botched car thefts due to a younger person not knowing how to drive manual. But way too…

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The Fuck It Diet Book and Why It's the Last Time I'll Talk About Losing Weight

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I guess I’ve always had an issue with my weight but I never really thought about it until reading The F*ck It Diet. Unlike most people, I was not an overweight kid who grew up to be an overweight adult. I actually was disgustingly UNDERweight as a kid. I was 98lbs until I got pregnant with our son; when I had him I tipped the scales at 124. I never thought much of it either.

Most of my childhood I spent under oversized clothes because I hated being so thin. Similar to those that struggled being overweight and they seemed to never be able to shed the weight and keep it off. I was never able to gain the weight. I ate like crap, certainly did not work out yet I stayed at 98lbs.

After I had my son I was not concerned either because I could actually shop…

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Fuck Your Feelings (by Mark Manson)

Look, I know you think the fact you feel upset or angry or anxious is important. That it matters. Hell, you probably think that because you feel like your face just got shat on makes you important. But it doesn’t. Feelings are just these… things that happen. The meaning we build around them–what we decide is important or unimportant–comes later.

https://markmanson.net/fuck-your-feelings

F-You, 12 Steps

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Rock's Fabulous Journey

I both love and hate the 12 Steps.

After quitting the fellowship yesterday (“for good, this time!”), I went to another meeting tonight (again). And it was great, I loved it.

But there’s so much of the dogma and culture which I fucking hate. There are certain things I simply will not subscribe to, certain things I cannot bring myself to say.

I’m not going to mould myself into a starry-eyed 12 Step believer. I can’t fool myself into doing that.

But here’s what I love:

12 Steps is a community of (fucking crazy) people with a common problem, coming together to support and help each other.

And THAT is fucking golden. I just need to find ways of dealing with the rest of the 12 Steps annoying bollocks.

[Note: forgive my swearing, I’ve been fasting today and recently had a strong coffee. It’s having approximately triple…

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10 ways to make money and f?@k with capitalism at the same time

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Apparently, the recession is over and we’re all supposed to be temporarily ok?  Well at least for the moment, right?  And it’s not like rent is super expensive either so we should be OK!  Capitalism totally works – sure work is there for everyone who needs it.

(In case you didn’t notice that was sarcasm – and hopefully explaining it didn’t take away from the joke).

There are little things you can do to help your survival, while in some cases, messing around on a tiny scale with capitalism.

cropped-58948_424946218089_492449_n.jpgOnline surveys

Market research is the bastion of capitalism and I say this after working in market research for about eight years.  The biggest demographics that market researchers want to speak to are males aged 18-34 and, to a lesser extent, males aged 35-49, as they are firstly the most difficult to get to complete research and also the groups with…

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