Fortunately writing doesn’t require an audience

Keywords: miscellaneous

There is a little bit of narcissism required to be a writer, to believe that people actually give a shit about what you think. And after the publishing of my book, with the podcasts and the interviews and the speeches I’ve given, I’ve come to realize that people read my words and still don’t understand me. Perhaps because they project their own experiences into the writing, perhaps because so much time has passed that I am no longer the person who wrote that book/those words, or perhaps because I am such a shit writer that I can’t express myself well enough to be understood. It feels like a mixture of all three of those possibilities. By the time you read these words, I’ll already not be the person who wrote them. I’ll have hopefully grown, and I’ll have moved on. And there is acceptance in knowing that the words I write are ephemeral to me. Too bad the people who read my words are seemingly locked into the space and time in which they are written.

https://bambooandbananas.org/on-writing

If you spend all your time going from pub garden to day festival, to club to pub garden again you’ll burn yourself out and you won’t end up being able to take in any of the experiences you’re having

Keywords: Love & Sex , Relationships

Get a journal and clear your head of all the dumb stuff that swirls around in it. Walk around a park with no headphones on just listening to the silence seeing what seeps in between the gaps, buy a matcha latte so green it looks like something from an alien planet. Look after yourself as if you were your partner. Make your bed so it’s nice when you get in from a night out. Buy yourself a pastry from the shop. Remember, no one knows what you want better than yourself.

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a44900816/i-used-to-think-being-single-was-a-means-to-an-end-but-now-im-the-main-event

Then again, see also: https://Wants.BLOG 😉

I am glad millions of people have shared their experiences online, I know it has helped me tremendously

Keywords: introducing me , tegan , blogging , blogging germany , tennager blogging , how to blog , why should i start a blog

I am ever so excited to start writing blogs and putting my thoughts on paper to clear my brain. It will be exciting to see my writing improve, as well as, my attitudes, dialect and interests. I am excited to read back on blogs and see my essence at that time captured in what I have written. I also hope to help others and provide value from what I have learned and my experiences. It feels so exciting to write this down so that I won’t forget any of it. I hope this blog gives me the opportunity to have a screenshot of the past and will also be enjoyable for others to read!

https://tegantalks207539972.wordpress.com/2021/05/08/introducing-me

Unbridled positivity in an experience of failure or distress makes people feel worse, not better

Keywords: it is all about life , positivity , real vibes , tips , toxic positivity

Often, all someone wants and needs is the acknowledgment and validation of their feelings. We all want to feel heard and seen. We don’t want someone to tell us how to feel or not feel or how it “isn’t that bad.”

https://mansi41665307.wordpress.com/2020/12/10/toxic-positivity-why-being-positive-could-be-bad-sometimes

I know the difficulty in walking away from this lifestyle, and am currently experiencing the challenges that come with this territory of walking into a new phase of life

Keywords: bullies , dream , life , lifework , military , self , transition , veteran , work , work-life

But what do I make of it? I’m getting through it and I’m determined to help other transitioning veterans get through it too. I stopped listening to the people who told me that I was crazy for walking away and started connecting with those who supported me in my decision. I stopped waiting for opportunity to show up and started creating my own.

https://worklifework.wordpress.com/2020/06/20/it-is-what-you-make-it