Thank you for pointing that out to me

Keywords: life maven , advice , career , how to

Particularly when someone points out something about us, the sting, the feel of criticism can cloud us from seeing the value in what’s being said.

https://anindependentmaven.com/2020/07/28/how-to-handle-unwelcome-feedback-with-grace

Messing around

Wow! Gushing appreciation really feels wonderful. 🙂

Let me back up a bit. Some people don’t have an appreciation of language quite like mine. Most people. Almost all people. Maybe I’m strange.

Quite a few people (2, to be exact, I think) have gotten upset about how this blog has cited their work. Maybe about half of them have mentioned the name of this blog as objectionable.

I wonder how many people understand the way this term is used (colloquially). Even a plain and simple Google search would reveal an inkling of this — but I do not advise paying attention to Google, so whatever, nevermind.

It’s not lewd. It’s a newfangled word for “relationship” (without all of the “love”, “dating”, etc. attachments). It’s actually a quite ironic reversal of what average people might expect as to which term is more involved with heavy-hitting emotional baggage. Most people immediately see those four letters, and jump directly to prohibition.

But that’s all just introductory rambling on my mind.

Words (and the 8-letter string “fuckwith” is so commonly used, that it ought to be considered a word IMHO) make connections (I will spare you the details, but if you really want them, then go ahead and check out the work of super-smart dudes like Ludwig Wittgenstein and Noam Chomsky). When we express our thoughts with words, we make associations between the way we see things (and/or we describe relationships we recognise) in the real world.

The string “fuckwith” is especially ambivalent. Sometimes it means a clearly positive vibe, other times it means something like “fooling around” (or “messing around”), the way a so-called troll might behave. In both cases, it is very nonchalant.

Let me get to the point about why I started writing this post:

I came home and slept the best sleep I’ve had in weeks, filled with delightfully fun dreams

https://legendofvelda.com/2020/07/19/connections

Velda wrote that in part because of my work with words! 😯

When I tell people that words and natural language are actually the most basic information technology there is, they tend to ignore what I just told them. Then within like 5 minutes, they will type a brand name into their computer or smartphone and actually believe whatever the brand name tells them. Brands are not words. Words are trustworthy. Brands are distrustworthy.

If you’re too good to like a picture of my kids than we really aren’t friends

The company we worked at had a toxic team culture. When I left, I didn’t tell them where I was going. I didn’t want all these negative and toxic people to know about my new chapter. I did meet some lovely people at this company and I keep in touch with them to this day. The toxic ones I want to remove from my life. When I blocked this person and the rest of the toxic team members from all of my social channels, I felt a huge burden lifted. I periodically clean out my friends/contact list to this day. If you’re too good to like a picture of my kids than we really aren’t friends.

https://therealishma.wordpress.com/2020/07/07/social-stalking