Category: opinion

You’ve been so fucked up by someone in your life that the minute someone comes along and tries to treat you the way you deserve because you’re a fucking decent human being, you back up and out those walls up like you’re trying to stop that Trojan horse from storm charging the city of your soul

Keywords: advice , blogger , cake , coping , depression , friendships , love , mentalhealth , priorities , relationships , self-love , therapy , ukblogger

Starting again is a difficult time of your life. It’s hard to break out of cycles that you’ve always known. It’s hard to break habits of a lifetime and it’s hard to loose people you’ve believed would be in your life forever but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Sometimes starting again, on your own or with someone new can be the most refreshing and exciting times. Learning the little things that matter to someone and even new things that you didn’t think you knew about yourself can be wonderful.

https://hashtag-mumlife.com/2020/03/16/dont-fuck-with-feelings

That Thing You Call Life, Use It

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Christine C.'s avatarptitbites

Every now and then, we forget.

We play, we study, we graduate into maturity, and then we choose to settle. We tell ourselves that we’re not as fortunate as others to be able to let ourselves go and live a little because of what we have in our hands – a job, a family, etc. We start to believe in those lies we tell ourselves.

I don’t have time. I can’t take time off from work. I have to find a career job in this point in my life. It’s not a good time in my life to go. I have kids to take care of and taking them with me would cost me a fortune. It’s too complicated. I have no money. 

These are just a few of the lies we tell ourselves. The lies we start to believe in so much that we lose sight of any possibility…

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“The hardest thing in life isn’t getting what you want; It’s knowing what you want.”

emilybeers's avatar

Dear KB,

You said my last post made you go ‘Ooof.’

I have to say, you questioning whether we use dating apps as a way of coping with our feelings, made me go, ‘Oooof.’ Quickly followed by a ‘Mother fucking Ooof!’

Because, I know you’re right.

What I have become painfully aware of, however, is I try to use the apps as a way to cope with the alone-ness of being single, but it doesn’t actually work. And in fact, it actually turns a not that lonely me into a lonelier me.

So I came across this Tim Ferriss post the other day, where he suggests that instead of making New Year’s resolutions, you conduct a past year in review—a chance to reflect on what you did in 2019 that was positive and led to positive feelings, versus what you did that was negative or led to negative emotions.

And…

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Rant: Blame the Teacher, not the Student

manual, millennial, rant, transmission

kostkafex's avatarWhat Does Phil Know?

I’ve been brainstorming writing this for a while. I’ve got a lot of friends in the generations above me, and have heard a lot more millennial/young person hate showing up more and more, especially when it comes to car enthusiasts. A lot of that is the nature of the social media machine, but at the same time, y’all gotta take a step back and think about your actions that helped cause this.

One particular item that grinds my gears is the car enthusiasts’ hatred of “kids that don’t know old car stuff”, especially the “millennial anti-theft device” aka the manual transmission. I know I’m a relatively rare exception, but both my wife and I know how to drive a manual transmission, and we’re both millennials.

I’ve seen too many memes and articles about botched car thefts due to a younger person not knowing how to drive manual. But way too…

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keeping up with the seasons

Mel's avatarperksofbeingmel

Over the last few months I have learned quite a bit more about the people around me. I’ve always considered myself an empathetic person. And I’ve been pretty outspoken that I think empathy is something everyone should possess. The sad truth is, so many people do not have the ability to put themselves into someone else’s headspace.

This year I finally feel like I’m surrounded by the right people. And in every conversation I have, I try to take the inspiring and truthful tid bits and apply what might help parts of my life.

Something someone said that has stuck in my head is that we need to allow people to go through their own seasons. We can only control ourselves. We cannot control what other people think or do.

All we can do is what we think is right, and what we know feels right for ourselves. Now, the…

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