I don’t know why she’s angry at me! I never hurt her! I don’t deserve this!

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As Michael did, we can listen and learn from those we’ve wounded. Simultaneously, we need to connect with the wounded parts of ourselves, as we each recognize our culpability and seek to change. We can do this through practices of self-compassion or spiritual practices of confession, repentance, and atonement.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/neutrality-is-invalidation